Pussy Worship
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Thursday, August 11, 2005DerailedSince we've started the D/s journey, we've found that we often hit a snag somewhere in the middle of lovemaking and have to stop. Mainly, we find that one or the other of us miscommunicated a desire and put unwarranted pressure on the other. We're finding that pet needs clear, specific direction at all times while subbing or he gets stressed and overwhelmed trying to please me but not knowing how. I think I often forget just how inexperienced a lover he was before me, because he was so eager (was, HA, still is). I'm glad now for this D/s opportunity to train him correctly in the art of pleasing a lover, instead of allowing him to flounder around. With D/s on board, I can give him clear direction without feeling bossy or feeling like I'm ignoring his needs. During scene, his needs are my needs, and we both do better. I'd like to set up some training sessions for him. I find that he really enjoys the parts of D/s that are focused on him--when I restrain him and torture him with sensation, or when I rough him up and fuck him, basically use him for my pleasure whatever that is. However, when it comes to my desire to be touched, caressed, stroked or generally loved on, he freaks out because he doesn't know "how". No amount of reassurance relaxes him, and he just shuts down. I'm envisioning a kind of body part by body part tour, ENDING with the clit, which he doesn't need much training on. Hm, more on this later, perhaps. Please feel free to add ideas, comments if you like--we do enjoy the feedback. Oh, and for those of you who enjoyed the cum eating story, I am going to take you up on your advice and explore that further, too. Pet loves to cum all over my toes, I think that is a good place to start. |
