Monday, March 27, 2006GrumbleGrumble
I hate not having time for sex.
I realize I could probably fit it in. But the sex we have now, well, it isn't the "fit it in" kind of sex. That sex is better left in the bad old days before D/s. A quickie might be fun for some, but we find it leads to resentment, hurt, and a serious lack of orgasm for me. Why on earth would we want to do that?
On the other hand, this means that our frequency has dropped from three times a week to once--if we're lucky.
Grumblegrumblegrumble. I do not like this. I am a three times a week Lady.
However, I can find no immediate solution to the problem outside of hiring Superman to turn the clock back an extra hour each night.
Needless to say, pet is way overdue for some serious ass fucking. And since we bought him one of these, all the more so. Yum.
Wednesday, March 22, 2006I Wonder
Just what is so enticing about pet's bound ass up in the air, just begging me to smack it?
Something about the curve of flesh, the rough then soft texture of it, the sheer invitation gets me dripping wet. By the time I'm done making his cheeks glow pink and making him say "owwww" and squirm away from me a few times, I'm ready to come with very little effort.
Monday, March 20, 2006Steak and Blow Job Day
Google March 20th and see that it is steak and blow job day. Today is March 20th and I had steak! Woot. No blow job today though, that was two days ago. Besides, while I love the concept of steak and blow job day, I just can't let myself be cheapened by a radio DJ's idea of male-centric valentines day.
Anyway, the blow job two days ago was inspired by a fetish flame post where Nova talked about giving Atticus a blow job while playing with a plug in his ass. My lovely wife did just that. We had a lot of cuddle time, followed by some finger fucking, then some serious spanking (32 actually. 10 with the flogger, 10 with her hands, 9 with the fly swatter and 3 with the enforcer (the crop)). Yeah that hurt like hell but it was worth it. The butt plug blow job is totally the bomb. I'm still a little in shock from it, as you can probably tell.
Tuesday, March 14, 2006Fine Line
Sometimes, I find there is a very fine line between being someone's Domme and being their mommy. One, very desirable for us, the other leads to disagreements and rebellion.
I'm doing my part by remembering just what things are part of our D/s relationship (our sexuality, final decisionmaking), and what things are NOT (most daily things). I fall in to the mommy trap with my spouse a lot, but I can't really blame D/s. In reality, I just fall into that trap because I mommy all day and my job is sort of a "parental" job. So, I just slip into it sometimes. But I need to be careful, because our dynamic must remain in the adult realm.
Why hasn't anyone been handing out how-to books with marriage certificates?
Friday, March 10, 2006Ice Water Play
It started in the bath. I slipped into the bath after my Lady slipped out, mainly to shave my balls because they were getting pokey. I shaved and my Lady kept me company, and somehow the topic of water on my sack came up. I said "warm water, ahhhhh... cold water would just, no." She said "what do you mean no?" I said "just no" and she said "no then."
She got a cup of cold water then from the kitchen and came back to where I was finishing up shaving and beginning to just soak. She dripped a little cold water on my stomach, and some on my legs, and then on my balls. I yelled a little. We were laughing at this point, so I rolled over to shield my balls and submerge them. I then said "if you pour water on me, I might do something you don't want." She knew what I meant, and she poured a little on me anyway, and it happened. She then dumped the entire cup of cold water on my ass and ran out of the room. I screamed, then waited for the color to return to my ass and then went into the bedroom to find she had some plans.
There were towels on the bed and all the restraints were laid out. I lay on the bed, on my back and my Lady clipped my legs, spread eagle. My hands were clipped together and then over my head to the headboard. She proceeded to blindfold me and tell me not to make a sound. She then proceeded to pour water all over me in small amounts, and then ask me every so often if I was ever going to do the thing I did in the bath again. I, of course, said "yes" because I am not a liar and because this situation was too enjoyable to end it. Of course, saying no may not have ended it, but I thought it might, but then I deferred back to the lie thing and decided to roll with the water anyway.
Finally, after successfully drenching me in chilled water, especially my penis and sack, she unclipped me and flipped me over, then pulled out the heart crop. She gave me one good smack on the ass and demanded I give in. Of course, at that point I did because the "enforcer" as I now call it, has a certain way with me.
And then we had sex and I can't remember the rest of the details because we've been having a lot of sex lately and it's all running together in my mind and my Lady says I'm a bad sub for not remembering every detail of our sexual encounters. (That's a really long sentence.)
Thursday, March 09, 2006We're here
Just a little delayed in posting.
In fact, I would say things have improved dramatically since my last post.
Pet has some details to add, will be doing that later.
Tonight, he is playing big bad top. Call it role play. I've had an assignment myself, even got down on my knees before him.
I can't stop giggling, though. Guess I'm a bad bottom ;)
Friday, March 03, 2006It's not all Blow Jobs and Butt Sex
Gabby's husband and Dom, right, or was it Gabriel?
Well, either way, sometimes being the Domme means putting yourself last, not first.
Pet has had some serious libido killing stuff going on, and has had little to no interest in sex, intimacy and zero interest in service and submission. He didn't even take me up on my spanking offer, which is really sad and out of character for him.
Well, I take that back. He has been thriving on my basic "take-charge" attitude, but has not returned the favor by being subservient (I've been saying it's all the Domme responsibility with none of the Domme rewards, lol).
I don't resent this. He needs to be supported and his boundaries need to be respected right now. This is the time to let him guide our sexual experience. As long as he realizes that when he's ready to return, I will be in charge ;)