Monday, April 21, 2008Infectious bad moods
When we spend time with people who are in bad moods (sometimes perpetually in a bad mood), it wears us down. I find that we can be frisky and playful with each other before we go to wherever we are going, and if someone there is pissy or belligerent or ornery or just in a bad mood, then one or both of us generally gets sucked in and by the time we get home, the frisky playfulness has long passed. Usually, it is replaced by the need to decompress a bit and even out, since the poisonous bad mood really affects us.
Once we start down that road, it gets worse, since the person who needs to be left alone breaks our routine and the other person ends up picking up the slack, thus doing double time on chores and child duties, which is exhausting enough as it is but doubly so by one's self. Then should the afflicted person shake their bad mood and return to the routine, the other person is wiped, probably frustrated, and possibly in a legitimate bad mood of their own. So the cycle continues until everyone has slept on it.
Granted, some things are obligatory and there's no avoiding them, but yesterday we were able to avoid them and that playful friskiness carried through and we found ourselves in the bedroom (not sleeping) before the night was through.
Sunday, April 13, 2008feeling really good to be clean
Lately I have been really enjoying my service to Her. We've been working on some projects for around the house that are coming right along, lots of deep cleaning and de-cluttering (ditching stuff we had since before we got married and said "hey, we should ditch that stuff"). I'm a packrat, but I'm trying to break my store-it-forever ways, and my Lady is a great help. When she gives me a choice, I usually choose to save things, but when she gives me an order, I throw it out or donate it or sell it or craigslist it promptly, which is great for both of us.
It is really nice to be finally cutting back on our supply of crap. We spent a long time last week looking for an adaptor cable that we ended up buying a replacement for since we couldn't find it, and then a week later I found it under some other stuff as I was cleaning up. Keeping things neat and organized is becoming a real priority for Her and me too. The thing is that we've always wanted to be more minimalist in our house and really it's just me holding us back. I live with this constant doublethink where I both want to keep stuff and want to have only what I need.
But pleasing Her is my #1 priority (not on the rules chart, but you know what I mean) and when she says "it is time" then it is time. She has a loving, compassionate dominance about her that people who have never met her before pick up on. Living with her as her willing and loving submissive means I get to enjoy that dominance all the time, and it helps me to be a better person and better lover, as well as a better father and better submissive. I am so lucky!
Monday, April 07, 2008Double down
Last week my lovely lady decided to up her pedicures to two per week. We always schedule one so she has nice looking toenail polish and decent exfoliation to avoid cracking and or buildup. I also lotion her feet nightly. As a result, she has lovely heels, balls, arches, and toes.
Lately, the weather has been so dry that she feels two soaking/rubbing/scrubbing/lotioning sessions are necessary to keep her feet feeling great. I happily oblige.
I get so turned on by her feet, touching them, smelling them, tasting them, pressing them into my face or when she pushes them onto other parts of me, how could I resist this extra opportunity to worship her body?
Last week we made love twice, both times involving oral sex on her, and I also gave her a full body massage which put her to sleep (a good thing).