Monday, January 30, 2006Hot Wax
We are far from experts in the kinky play department, just getting our feet wet, so to speak. Richard, in the last post commentary, rightly mentioned some concern about safety when it comes to hot wax play. I was worried too, not just about burning pet but about his abundance of body hair and the sheer bad mojo of getting the wax off (though there are ways of protecting the skin and hair, and there's always shaving, of course). For some, too, wax removal is part of the play.
But anyway, I found this awesome thing at sub-shop.com (click the pic to go there. We don't get any reward for you buying from Autum, I just love her shop):
It was perfect for first time wax players. The wax melts but at a very low temp so it is hot but not burning, and it is intended to be used as massage oil. So I could pour it all over pet's back and then just rub it in or rinse it off when done. No unintended hair removal or burn accidents. We enjoyed it very much--pet commented it hurt less then the ping pong paddle--what a baby ;)
In other news, we had some really nice play time last night. Nothing too wild, just pet and I enjoying each other's company. I notice pet is lasting longer during sex than ever before, and I am very proud of his efforts to maintain erection but not go over the orgasmic edge until I am fully satisfied. I enjoyed lots of penetration last night, and it was quite lovely.
Pet--your assignment today is to relax. Take a night off. I'll bathe the kids and get them off to bed, you do whatever you need to do to feel good. Naturally, you need to figure out what it is you need to feel good. Do that.
Friday, January 27, 2006His Resolutions
Here are my resolutions, with explanations as seen needed:
1. 69 Her on top.
2. 69 Me on top.
3. 69 On our sides.
(She says this is really one resolution but hey, who's counting?)
4. Her wearing high-heels and a strap-on, penetrating me from behind, over a counter or table or something.
5. Naked wrestling.
(We already did this one. She won.)
6. Me peeing on her in the shower.
7. Her peeing on me in the shower.
(Neither of us are particularly turned on by this in theory, though neither of us thought spanking would be all that hot either. We've talked a little bit about it, and while we're intrigued, we can't really know if it's worth doing until we try it...)
8. I want a pair of nylons.
9. I want to get on all 4's in the tub or shower stall, and have her slowly poor a pitcher of warm water down through my crack and let it run down over my balls and cock.
10. More hot wax play, on our feet!
That's it, my 10 (or 8) resolutions!
Tuesday, January 24, 2006Pet's Assignment
I've written about this several times, but I find the best way for us to reconnect and to feel our roles is the assignment. Forgive me if that is all I've been writing here lately. The blog, now that pet can access it from work and other places, is a great way for us to communicate kinky.
Three things today, pet:
#1 The (decidedly non-kinky) project we worked on all weekend needs finishing. Should be largely done by bedtime.
#2 I want you to write ten kinky new year's resolutions. Things you want to have happen in the very near future. I want to read them by the time you get home tonight.
#3 I want you to conjure up a fantasy so hot you get hard at your desk. You might start with what I'm going to do when I'm done posting, since Stewie is napping.
That's it, love you!
**Edited to add:
The whole new year's resolutions idea comes from Atticus and Nova of Fetish Flame, an awesome podcast I listen to regularly. Check them out, they rock. They always have unique insight and information, not to mention Nova's voice is one to go gay for. Yum.
Friday, January 20, 2006Assignment Complete
All went very well, though I have to say I'm disappointed at the lack of readability of pen on cock. Oh well, too many bumps and ridges I guess. He was very hard and very at work, and that is thrilling.
Pet brought me fresh tea during a nice warm bubble bath and sat with me, while we talked and rekindled our connection and roles. He ran a light hand over my skin and I laid my head on his shoulder while we just chatted about everything. Bonus--we were only interrupted once by inquiring minds wanting to know why mama was using "my" bathtub (no tub in our room). I even got to read a few pages of a J.D. Robb book, interesting stuff so far, I hear it gets sexy later.
Upon exiting the bath, pet locked up the house while I got ready for bed. He spent some time kissing and licking my feet, then rubbed lotion into the heals. I got an all over massage which was quite relaxing--I forget how good a massage can feel.
Pet did decide to use the opportunity to complain about his lack of orgasms. I have to admit, I have been stingier than usual--but if I can't have them, why should he? I can be evil like that. I told him if he was that desperate to orgasm he'd have to think of a good trade. Then I might consider a larger allowance. We'll see what he comes up with.
Thanks to my female issues, intercourse was out of the question, so we cuddled up close, and eventually I had him put on a show of self pleasure while I used my vibrator to climax (woot, finally!). Then I allowed him buns access, and it did not take long before he was making a mess of my ass.
After he cleaned us up, he came back to bed and we snuggled like Eskimos (ironic, given our warm climate). I honestly can not remember falling asleep. What a relaxing and loving evening.
Thursday, January 19, 2006Assignment
We have devised a way for pet to read the blog at work, though not post.
So, I'll publicize today's assignment. We've been off track with each other thanks to life (as usual), but it is time to get back in line.
So, to that end, here is the assignment you requested, pet:
You will take a dark colored highlighter into the bathroom with you (feel free to use the private shower if you like). You will stroke yourself hard, very hard, and write me a message on your cock and balls. Good thing they're all smooth and shaved, or this might be difficult. Oh, wait, you've neglected to shave? Aw. Bummer. Message is your choice, don't be goofy if you expect resolution of that hard on, though.
If the highlighter won't write, you'll have to think creatively!
Take a picture, too. I don't think you can send it to me but I can look at it later. I want proof in case it all rubs off.
As for tonight, I suggest some serious body worship. I enjoyed the foot kissing today very much, and I think more of that could be on the table. Yum. A bath would fit nicely into that plan as well.
Love you pet!
Tuesday, January 17, 2006Fair Trade
Due to some female issues, I've been out of the pleasure ranks for a few days. So, I decided pet should be too. He's been denied and denied, and still managed to get a huge hickey on his chest. Poor pet. He was full to bursting during our morning shower, and I felt a certain obligation to allow him relief, if only to protect his prostate health.
So, I offered him a deal--you provide me something, I provide you the chance to orgasm. He proposed a full pedicure with painted toenails, I accepted. I sent him researching a while back to learn the best way to give a pedicure. It is really quite involved, with foot soaking and massage, nail clipping and filing and finally polish (red this time).
Normally, I know better than to allow his orgasm before my part of whatever bargain, but in this case I made an exception. He stroked only a few times before shooting across the shower with a low moan. Later tonight during House, I get my reward. Ah, tea, House and foot massage. Life is good.
Update: Well, as with most things life got in the way of a perfect evening. House was bumped for American Idol (shame Fox, shame). Pet has some very stressful work issues that are keeping his mind off of service, which sux. However, I do have lovely red toes this morning, so all was not lost.
Sunday, January 15, 2006Harder
Pet says I hit harder now that I've found my bearings with spanking. Do you think that is true? Mwahahaha...
We have been using the homemade flogger a lot. Pet loves the feel of it, light and thuddy, a bit stingy with wraparound but I try to be careful to minimize that. The problem with it is that it is a very gentle toy, and when I get out the rougher things I tend to swing harder since I'm used to swinging harder with the flogger. For some reason, I don't feel all that bad about it. Especially since in between "ow"s and "that HURTS" I hear a lot of giggling and no safe word. Big baby.
I've discovered my sadistic side. Not too much into dishing out pain, but certainly I get a thrill from his protests, weak as they are.
Friday, January 13, 2006More search engine fun!
Here's another post for my own amusement to draw unrelated hits from search engines to our site with random keywords! Here goes:
Gondola foliage nerves run like hell "I can't feel my feet" "that's cause we cut off your arms" my cat smells what did I step in fire in the hole grande superman super-size super bowl only in Elbonia. Why are we here? Because we're here. Roll the bones. Navigation stars ursa major minor key word play mate matress sloppy joe young einstein has the i before e rule wrong twice in his name!
Here's to happy surfing!
I love my Lady!
Ay, I don't want this to come off bitchy or unappreciative, because I love the readers we have here. I just want to make it clear. This is not a fantasy site.
Well, not a fantasy site for others. We don't do this blog to make money or attract attention to another site that makes money. This is our personal life, part of it anyway, laid bare for three simple reasons:
1. It is hot. We enjoy the exhibitionism.
2. When I went looking for couples like us online I found few. I wanted to start a blog that others could read that was about our D/s experience. I wanted to provide for others what I was lacking.
3. To meet like minded folk. Can't exactly walk up to people IRL and say "hey, do you like to tie up your husband and spank him?" Sad really, but you can't.
To that end, I do not write fantasies that others might find hot or enjoyable. If you find my fantasies (and reality) enjoyable and hot, sweet! But I'm sorry, pet and I don't do tailor made stuff. Look to the pros for decent erotic tales to suit your particular kink, and don't troll for me to write about things. I will write what I want, when I want. I am the Lady of the house, after all.
Thursday, January 12, 2006Acting it Out
I'm studiously ignoring my bratty pet's tag. I refuse to be tagged by my pet. Only owners tag.
On that note, I thought it might be fun to collar pet again. I haven't put him in his big play collar in a long time, and I miss the look. for a while, it was a trust issue. Now it is more of a storage issue. Our drawers are full to bursting with gear now, and leave little room for the stuff I bagged and put away when we were having D/s doubts. But still, that collar and leash are my favorite things to see him in besides nothing or my panties.
I have this fantasy involving tying pet up to a chair, leashed and collared, and just leaving him there while I masturbate or do whatever, letting him suffer and watch. He may get hard, he may not. I don't really care. I've written a variation on this fantasy in the past, but never brought it into fruition. Is it time, I wonder, to really test his submission and tie him up, tease and deny him for a length of time he is unaccustomed to? Will he rebel? Will he be angry? Or will it make his eventual release that much sweeter?
I'll never know until I try.
Monday, January 09, 2006Afternoon Nap Shower Sex
Yesterday, my Lady put the baby down for a nap and then went for the paper. I intercepted her before she had the rubber band off the roll and suggested a shower. She agreed and then climbed naked into bed. That's my kind of shower. I killed the lights and hopped in bed behind her, pressing my nakedness up against her nakedness under the covers. This was comfy.
After a bit of kissing and stroking and playing about with her, she spread her legs and let my hand wander into her nethers. I massaged around her pussy a bit and she said I should check to see if it's wet. Usually, if she's telling me to check if it's wet, it's already wet. This was the case.
I slipped in a finger and rubbed her G-spot a while. I also removed some of the covers from her body and set myself to work munching her ass. It was tasty and she was moaning for most of the 30 minutes I worked on her. In spite of this effort and a sleeping baby, she was having a good time but was unable to orgasm.
I continued on and pulled out the big gun, my hard dick. (Okay it's not that big but I always have to talk like it is cause I'm male.) I slid it around and massaged her pussy, in and out with it. This brought her really close to orgasm but at the same moment, the baby decided to wail into the monitor.
I showed remarkable restraint in not cumming in or on her, as she was really wet and I was really horny from all the playing I had been doing. The baby showed no signs of going back to sleep so She said "well, for all this work, one of us better cum." So I plunged in her once or twice, more than enough to send me over at this point, and then pulled out and delivered a load onto her stomach that would fill a dixie cup. Again, I got a "Woah" out of Her.
Strangely enough, I didn't feel totally void of all sexual desire after cumming. I was still somewhat attentive and awake and not in any hurry at all to go get the baby. This is progress, but this is also daytime sex, which always worked better for us, even before experimenting D/s style.
Later that evening She was horny again and She practically jumped me getting into bed. She told me she wanted Her cock and I agreed that She should have it if She wants it. So I slipped on a condom and entered Her, or rather she climbed atop me (one of my favorite positions)! It wasn't long until she had her first orgasm.
She bent down so She was on all fours and told me to take Her from behind. I did, and She had another orgasm! It was well deserved. I went a little longer but she had dried out thanks to the condom. I pulled out and used the pre-cum and spermicide in the condom plus the condom to jerk myself off. I came, and then we crashed. Yay sleep!
Friday, January 06, 2006Training
When people talk about training a submissive, I was unclear on what they meant. I mean, train them to obey? Isn't that part of being submissive in the first place?
However, as I've started thinking about it, I've spent quite a bit of time training my submissive to meet my requirements, without realizing it. Only now that I am an acknowledged dominant do I even call it training. Some examples:
Kissing--I hate wet kisses too soon in the sexual experience. I prefer light, soft kisses with a closed or slightly open mouth. If pet tries to stick his tongue down my throat too soon, he gets a turned off wife. Well, now he gets my paddle on his ass (ping pong, works ok so far), but he used to get a turned off wife.
Mornings--pet has learned that I am not at my most pleasant in the mornings. He learned to bring my coffee and entertain the kids while I take a half hour or so to wake up. By the time he leaves for work, all is well.
Cleaning--While we share chores quite equally, pet had to learn to clean in a way that was acceptable to me.
most importantly: Oral sex--he has learned to worship me properly. An important and unique thing. As it turns out, the single most important part of good worship is a clean shaven face. My parts are sensitive even to five o'clock shadow, so he is expected to come to bed clean shaven on nights we plan to play.
I'm sure there are countless other ways I've trained my pet to serve me without intending to. You can be sure from now on my training will be more deliberate. He recently learned how to prepare my tea (lightly brewed, with a bit of honey ;).
Monday, January 02, 2006And one MORE thing...
Thanks so much for your wishes for us. We wish for you hot sexy silk boxers for your Sir.
"Here are the rules: The first player of this game starts with the topic and people who get tagged need to write an entry about their five weird habits as well as state this rule clearly. In the end, you need to choose the next five people to be tagged and link to their web journals. Don't forget to leave a comment in their blog or journal that says 'You are tagged!' (assuming they take comments) and tell them to read yours. The following may not be weird to you but they are to somebody."
I was tagged by Erica over at Conjecures of a Guilty Bystander. so, here are five weird habits of mine:
1. This started before I met Her: No shirts allowed while handwashing dishes. Before Her it was to keep my shirt from getting wet which it almost always did when I washed dishes in the sink. After Her and our new house and dishwasher, this rule still exists but mostly just for Her enjoyment.
2. Burp-talking. I have done it for so long it's a reflex. I always say something when I burp, or at the very least go ruh-ruh-rowp.
3. I make sound effects when I tell jokes or stories. I don't think I can recount an incident without them. I think most boys do.
4. I touch my penis all the time when I'm not in public. I just sit around and if it's in reach, my hand is on it.
5. I save eeeeeeeeeeee-everything, and then later use it for something else. Later can sometimes mean years later, or not yet. Lots of people do this so I don't suppose it is weird. Oh well!
I tag HER.
Christmas bonus anyone?
If we haven't said it before, we love Autumn's www.sub-shop.com for all our sexual needs. I've tested products from many places (always loved Good Vibrations, too), but Autumn is prompt, sweet and if you have any questions or concerns she answers them personally. Her prices are reasonable even for nicer items. Plus, there are tons of hot pics of her personally testing out the gear she sells.
In our cart today was:
1 Vibrating Butt Plug (I do believe it is on par with Gabby's infamous waterproof model)
1 Roll Bondage Tape
1 Set Erotic Dice (randomness adds to the fun)
1 Set Rubber Cock Rings
1 Candle for Wax Play
1 Set Temp Tattoos that say "love slave" and other things (they were cheap :)
2 free gifts! Colored condoms and a set of anal beads. Fun!
We went in search of anal vibrators. Call me an impulse shopper...
Sunday, January 01, 2006Smooth Sailing 2
In response to my smooth sailing post where I left out the details of sex with Her, Her Yeoman asked if I had cum. The answer is yes, and actually it was quite hot and a bit unexpected how it happened. She had climbed atop me and was riding me, and when she does this I used to cum immediately. I started doing the cum-stopping tricks, like thinking of baseball player's names or looking away, but while this keeps me from cumming, it's also a turn-off to her.
So she has me maintain eye contact and talk dirty to her while she does it, and if I can handle the ride until She's done or whenever She chooses, then that's considered "good behavior" for me, and I'm usually rewarded promptly. In this case, that was the case, and my reward was to lick Her ass.
She got on all fours in front of me on the bed and I planted my tongue deep into her rosebud. While I pleasured Her, I found I was grinding my penis in the condom between the bed and my stomach, so I asked to cum and She said yes, and I did! I filled the condom up enough to get a "woah" out of Her.
Side note: I had really wanted to eat Her ass earlier in the day, we had stepped out of the shower and She was brushing her teeth naked. I planted a nice smack on Her right cheek and she thrust her ass back at me. I bent down to kiss Her ass and She ushered me on so I started licking it then as she continued to brush her teeth. She enjoyed it but after rinsing and spitting it was obligation time so we had to stop.