Wednesday, June 28, 2006Sweet Life
I was up most of the night for reasons I won't even go into again! If only I drank, so I could blame it on a wild party...sigh.
But suffice it to say I was exhausted, finally dropping off to sleep around 5:30 a.m. I was certainly not up for getting two busy kids off to their respective schools.
So pet did it for me.
He didn't wake me to ask any questions or to see if I was going to get up, he just got up and handled everything. I can't say this is entirely because of our D/s lifestyle--after all, a good husband is considerate no matter what. But the fact that he took care of me without complaint (again!) makes me all proud and tingly. He deserves a reward, don't you think?
That, plus completing a task I set out for him, earned him something I reserve for very special occasions. Maybe he'll post about it soon.
All you guys who want a wife in charge can take a lesson from a well behaved and loving pet like mine :)
Monday, June 26, 2006Restraint
There is something really compelling about restraining another person. Especially, for me, someone bigger than myself. I love the feeling of control it gives me.
When restrained, the feeling of surrender is never as good for me as the feeling of being in charge. Eh, I'm a top.
A simple act such as holding pet's hands over his head while I fuck him adds to the sexual experience in ways I never imagined.
And rope? Yum.
I've never wanted a four poster bed before, but somehow, now, I can see the appeal.
Saturday, June 17, 2006Top from Below
A commonly used phrase, often misunderstood. Besides that, we all attribute our own meaning to the words in this lifestyle--submissive, slave, domme, master, etc etc etc.
But I'll say what it means for me.
My pet is always snarky. He's always got a little goof in his life, and that is excellent. Life is far too serious as it is--to be all dramatic is not really our style. To that end, he is often goofing around, trying to boss me around and basically egging me on to smack his snarky ass. I have no trouble with this. I rather enjoy smacking his ass.
But on the flip side is the true topping from below he sometimes does. He sometimes gets afraid, gets withdrawn, ya know, basically feels human feelings and reacts badly to them. (and I never, ever do that. I am perfect ;) The thing is, he acts very nearly the same as above--little side comments and snark. But the tone is different, and it is clear to me he is rejecting my dominance. That leaves me hurt, confused, and not a little pissed off.
The trouble we have is that I will point it out, and he will insist it is behavior #1--the fun kind. But I know better, and usually after a few hours of thought, so does he.
The great thing about us is that behavior #2 is decreasing greatly as our trust and belief in our chosen lifestyle deepens. As his trust of me and in my desire for his happiness as well as my own deepens.
saratoga wrote about wants vs. needs in his last post, and I understand the basic concept. The fact is, for us, I concern myself with what will move our lives along the smoothest and what will bring us the most pleasure as a family and as a couple. Sometimes that does mean addressing pet's wants as well as his needs. I see nothing wrong with that. My dominance is not a neglectful one, but a loving one. As it turns out, what led us here to begin with is what pet generally wants is what brings me the most pleasure. Bonus.
Friday, June 16, 2006Glimpses
A glimpse of a life led in our way:
A very tired lady falling asleep mid-pedicure
A very snarky pet with many, many little heart shaped marks on his ass
An evening spent just sitting on the couch together, reconnecting after a busy day
A slow and lovely backrub that left me, in the end, needing to launder my clothes for the amount of fluids that wound up on them
Life is good
Tuesday, June 13, 2006A Week
I hadn't realized I let a whole week go by again. Shoot.
I've been writing on other fronts so I find myself blocked when it comes to our little D/s corner of the blog world.
Things go well, happily. We have found ourselves on a very even keel.
There's more I want. There's always more to want.
When we go away together, we'll have to pack an entire extra bag for toys. Good thing we're not flying!
Tuesday, June 06, 2006Twice in one Weekend
It used to be laughable to think that we would have sex only twice in one weekend. We made up "Naked Saturdays" as part of our week, and my oh my how naked they were! Here are the details from one of our sessions.
Enough time had passed since our last sexual encounter that both of us were getting antsy. She and one child got really ill and I and the other child got slightly ill so we were all just holding it together all week. Finally, at a high point in Her day (not feeling woozy) and at a point when the kids all went down for a nap, we made for the bedroom with all speed, leaving a trail of clothes behind.
She wasn't feeling too on top of everything so I took charge, sorta. It is always a funny situation when I do because She and I sometimes burst out laughing when I say things. We also like to joke about when I do this too, just because it is lighthearted play. For example, I told Her I was going to be like her spanking me on the butt, then slapped Her on the back and then on the thigh. She responded by saying She was going to be like me and started saying "ooooooh ow it hurts oh I scream like a little girl oooh."
I massaged her back for a while, then moved my hand into her pussy and massaged there for a while as she lay on her stomach. Then she lay on her back and I pressed my penis into her, and thrust a few times, enough to get her going but then pulled out and told Her She had not earned it yet. She gasped and laughed a bit.
I massaged her clit with my fingers for a while, then slid one inside and massaged her G-spot for a while, taking her near climax several times. Then I went down and licked her clit for just a few seconds until She burst, throbbing and jerking around. I licked her a few more times and made her scream from the hypersensitivity.
After that, I inserted my penis and thrust a bit, then just held it in there, and the desire and lust between us was enough to finish me off, so I pulled out and planted a lot of cum on her breasts. It was pornorific and fun, and then I spiced up the intimacy a bit by giving her a great big bear hug and smearing the cum all over her chest and mine.
We hopped in the shower a minute later, but we were really connected at that point, and very satisfied.