Tuesday, August 08, 2006On limits
Candace (Woman Rules Roost) has written recently about limits and got me thinking about them.
Pet's limits have changed dramatically over time. In the beginning I longed for a deeper submission, when he was still questioning the process and struggling with trust. But as time went on and we moved along, I found that he would go much deeper into submission--and by that I mean he would accept my direction without question, he would complain less and comply more.
Though there are many examples, let's look at pain.
Pet requested the spankings, to begin with. He wanted to experiment, to see what was so sexy about them. But he and I both hesitated at causing him actual pain. However, as the time wore on, he discovered a unique and unexpected masochism within himself. He doesn't get a hard on from pain, but somehow he craves it. As we've explored, we've graduated from my hand to a ping pong paddle to a rice paddle, the fly swatter, and finally the crop. There is no mistaking the pain of a crop, but there is no mistaking pet's desire for it, either.
His limits have changed. His desire for pain and submission has increased, his reluctance for the position has decreased.
I can't think of anything more sweet, really.