Tuesday, July 18, 2006Woah
This is a long post about feminist politics. Feel free to skip if you're looking for the usual fare.
I discovered our little blog has been tangentially pulled into a debate over kink and feminism. I hadn't intended to address the issue here, but since I'm getting quite a bit of traffic from the mention, I figured I should say something.
Here's the link history that I am aware of:
First, Rachel Kramer Bussel wrote an article, seen here, about kink and feminism. There is an age old debate about this--is a submissive woman a feminist? Is a woman who gives blowjobs a feminist? Ms. Bussel addresses these issues in her article, and appears to come down firmly on the side of sexual freedom for women, not being boxed in by the now near meaningless "feminist" label.
Second, there was a ton of backlash from people who disagreed with her.
Third, Mistress Matisse weighed in here, and got her own backlash.
Fourth, Ms. Bussel reported on all of this and more at her blog, and specifically sited OUR blog as the--I suppose the opposite of what she was talking about originally. You can see that blog post on her site, Lusty Lady. Scroll down to Monday's posts.
So, I feel totally weird having our blog held up as the "opposite" of women who enjoy submission and blowjobs. I love blowjobs! One of my dearest blog friends, Freya, is a strong and sassy submissive woman who is miles away from a weakling. And feminism, to ME, is all about freedom of choice for women, not about boxing them into the "superior" sexual position. Ew. No way.
In fact, I know a lot of our long time readers are strongly in the "women are superior" camp, and good on you all of course, but I am certainly not. I really believe that the genders are equal, and choosing to live our life or a M/f life or even a plain old vanilla life is something that is within each person's rights. And I don't believe I've ever said I was a person who believed that the only true feminist is one who is in charge of her mate. Bah. Screw that.
**Edited here. After exchanging emails with Ms. Bussel, she confirmed my suspicion that she used our link as a simple example of a female "top", to respond to those who were attacking her point of view. Her link to us was not disrespectful in the least. Wanted to make that clear.
This blog is not political. I am not trying to change anyone's mind about anything. I just enjoy my kink and my life, and I want to share it. That's it. For those curious and coming from the debate to here, please feel free to look around. For those assuming I'm that party of the scary rabid feminist movement, I'm not. I agree with Ms. Bussel. Plain and simple.
And, for our usual readers: soon, I'll have pet report on his delightful return home.