Tuesday, July 04, 2006Just As Easily
Just when you think things are going perfectly, the world turns.
Another lesson from D/s that is serving me well.
We are doing fine, just returned from vacation.
However, we hit some relationship snags on the trip. Big shock--vacations with kids are stressful and overwhelming as much as they are fun and exciting.
I'm constantly reminded that pet needs a heavier hand, more strict attention, than I can always give. Running this way and that through crowded tourist attractions leaves little time for intimacy, connection and guidance.
As soon as my attention is divided in a thousand directions, pet begins to feel out of sorts, confused and generally crabby. And worse, he is completely unaware of it.
At home I can correct this fairly quickly. Some time in the bedroom with the crop and restraints puts things right between us and reminds us both who is in charge here. But on this vacation I had no such luxury. So we simply missed each other, both of us felt outside our normal roles and uncomfortable.
My own lesson here is that my dominance needs to transcend convenience. I need to figure out a way to exert my will even when faced with no time, no privacy, and no ability to do so openly. That will require some thought, and diligence, on my part.
On pet's part, he will have to learn to listen, and to abide by the agreements we have made. He broke many of our simple rules this weekend. That will not be tolerated.
When his reward...and his punishment...have been granted, I will instruct him to report on all the details.