Wednesday, October 26, 2005More on Male Masturbation
laurent asked re: my post about masturbation if I liked the erotic quality, or the rush of knowing pet is doing it for me. Also, he wanted to know if I had other lovers masturbate for me in the past.
The answer is a big yes to all three. I have always gotten wet at the thought of a man masturbating--I can trace those fantasies back to the age of 13 or so, but no real catalyst for them comes to mind. And I do believe it is a power thing for me as well as a simply sexy one. I love knowing a man is so hot for me he will jerk off right there rather than wait. I love phone sex for this reason, just kicking back and hearing him get off on the mere thought of being with me. Hot. I am really into orgasm control, always have been. I gush over being in charge of a man's sexual pleasure, watching him get googly with desire then allowing him to cum, or not, at my behest.
I've had most of my lovers--all the long term ones--masturbate for me, on me, over the phone for me. Shoot, the other day some random guy YIMed me and masturbated right there--with bound balls no less (I was not looking for this, btw, but had a brief chat about how it felt to be bound, techniques, etc. Good typist, for doing it one handed).
I've never Dommed outright before now, as you know if you've been reading, so it wasn't an overt power thing before. It was always hot, though, some of my favorite times. Some of the guys I've been with were pretty bad lovers, selfish, and having that bit of control was quite good. Took me a few more years to learn to ask for what I wanted, and another couple to learn that I preferred making demands.
Eh, live and learn!