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Friday, January 18, 2008Thoughts on PunishmentMystress asks: "what the consequences are for your pet when he does not follow them?" Good question. Uh, I'm supposing "I'll get back to you" isn't an acceptable answer, LOL. The truth is I have no real idea. I have some things I do know, though. 1. I don't want to be anyone's mom. At least, not anyone else's and certainly not pet's. Not my kink. 2. I don't want to be disobeyed. Ever. The rules we set up are not, like, a set of rules that he is free to break with known consequences. I'm not going to pull him over and write him a ticket if I catch him speeding, for example, like the cops will to all of us. The rules we set up are mutually agreed upon unbreakable guidelines for our life. I don't get to enact a consequence, because he doesn't break the rules. Neither do I, for that matter, because I have my part in them as well (i.e., when the rules say I have his best interest at heart, I better well fucking maintain that.) That said, what does happen when the terms of the contract are not met? I don't know, we've never gotten that far. If pet isn't abiding by the contract, either the contract is flawed or his submission has been removed. Either one requires more serious attention then a session with a paddle or whatever. Now, for small things, the opportunity for playful discipline can be great! Example: he forgot my coffee a morning ago. Once I realized it, I gave him the opportunity to pick his own poison which he did in the form of cold coffee on his bare back. But this wasn't punishment, see. This was fun for both of us. He is a masochist, if a reluctant one, and pain and pleasure and sensation of all types are generally a good experience (note I did not say pleasurable, but the whole pain/pleasure blah blah is for another post). I see the fun of being dominant in these little things--both the good choice and bad lead to a good time. BDSM is play, no matter what. I guess that was the roundabout way to say I don't really "punish." But I'm interested to see how other folks approach the same ideas. |
