Saturday, January 05, 2008Returning to posting
It's been a while since we posted, but that's been covered. What is new?
The contract has been revised, that's new.
The kids are older and more self-sufficient, that's good.
Our understanding of each other is growing, and that's great!
We had a rough patch the past several months/year. Our relationship was fine but the scenes were almost non-existent, sexual endeavors were few and far between, and more often than not we just lay comatose on the sofa for up to an hour after the kids went to bed.
We had lots of communication and assumption issues, which the new contract addresses. We communicate a lot more, have some scheduled check-ins, and have set up weekly planning meetings and such. We also set up things like pedicure and self-care nights, both of which I enjoy.
I am presently working on not working - or rather, leaving work at work so that when I am home, I can focus on what is really important, my lady (and the kids). The biggest complaint we both had of last year was how I worked and worked and worked and was just always operating in cover-my-ass-get-it-done mode. This made me really touchy and argumentative, neither of which are qualities my lady wants her submissive to be exhibiting.
There are some additional things that we are looking forward to this year. My job situation and the kids' school situation is changing to allow for more time available to us during the day and more predictable daily routines, both of which are good.
The hope here is that with diligence and effort to maintain open communication, we will have a better understanding of each other and thus an easier time transitioning from parents/workers/homemakers into lovers. As always, the blog is here to help chronicle what we try that works and what fails.