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Wednesday, June 06, 2007Changing it up a littleLately we've found that we have been extra busy and that means we haven't had much time together. Our babysitting evaporated and other facets of our life have started making it harder to connect, and therefore harder to get the pre-love-making intimacy we need in order to get to any love-making, scening, or other play. It had been a couple weeks since the our last sexual encounter, and my mistress has felt very bothered by the lack of sex. She also feels that prolonged time between sexual encounters doesn't help our cause any because of the ways our bodies work. This has been the subject of many posts of ours in the past, but to summarize: The longer we go between encounters, the hornier and more uncontrollable I get and the less inclined to have sex she gets. So she decided to take action - giving me freedom to masturbate as desired. I feel this will curb my constant hounding, clinging, and grabbing of her between sexual encounters, and prolong sex when we do have it together. She isn't entirely sure what will happen with this, but she knows what we've been doing isn't working for her, and to keep doing it would only yield the same results. So far, it's been two days that I've masturbated in the mornings (my choice, that way I'm charged up but not crazy and overbearing in the evenings). The first day, I did it and then that evening, I painted her toenails and massaged her feet. The next day (today) I did it in the shower to thoughts of me painting her toenails, and nothing else. In the past, for me to successfully masturbate, I had to at least think of something purely physically sexual in nature to reach orgasm, but now my range of sexual response has broadened to accept many other things as sexual. I'll be sure to keep you posted with how this works out, it's a newish venture for us. I say newish because before we accepted a D/S lifestyle, I masturbated fairly regularly. I want to be a better lover for her, and she wants that too, and if she feels that this is something to try, then try it we shall. |