Saturday, April 22, 2006The Solution
Thanks for the suggestions! Interesting options, all of them. Strap on, though, that's a reward, not a punishment ;)
I'm considering what sartoga said in his comment about removing stimulus as a punishment, as pet's egging may be a cry for attention. I think, when I review, that he is right--it was a major cry for attention. We've had little time for sex, less time for a nice scene or seven, and when we are like two ships passing in the night I tend to retreat into wife and mother role. The Domme in me takes a break.
Mostly, I'm afraid of rejection from pet. I don't want to exert my domination in a vacuum, and when he's worn out and overdone, I'm really afraid he won't respond to me. That is not the way I want to operate, more an instinctual reaction to the distance created by a busy life.
I think, the way he goads me is his way of asking me for more D/s. I actually appreciate the hint. However, and this is a message for pet--I PREFER a direct request. Something along the lines of "hey, babe, you haven't really been dominant with me lately. Would you get down and dirty with it please?"
Sometimes, I think he doesn't even realize he's doing it.
Eh, in either case, he was sore all day Friday thanks to his mouth. I've decided I like the ping pong paddle best--packs a great whallop for very little effort on my part. That should hold him a few days, anyway.