Friday, January 06, 2006Training
When people talk about training a submissive, I was unclear on what they meant. I mean, train them to obey? Isn't that part of being submissive in the first place?
However, as I've started thinking about it, I've spent quite a bit of time training my submissive to meet my requirements, without realizing it. Only now that I am an acknowledged dominant do I even call it training. Some examples:
Kissing--I hate wet kisses too soon in the sexual experience. I prefer light, soft kisses with a closed or slightly open mouth. If pet tries to stick his tongue down my throat too soon, he gets a turned off wife. Well, now he gets my paddle on his ass (ping pong, works ok so far), but he used to get a turned off wife.
Mornings--pet has learned that I am not at my most pleasant in the mornings. He learned to bring my coffee and entertain the kids while I take a half hour or so to wake up. By the time he leaves for work, all is well.
Cleaning--While we share chores quite equally, pet had to learn to clean in a way that was acceptable to me.
most importantly: Oral sex--he has learned to worship me properly. An important and unique thing. As it turns out, the single most important part of good worship is a clean shaven face. My parts are sensitive even to five o'clock shadow, so he is expected to come to bed clean shaven on nights we plan to play.
I'm sure there are countless other ways I've trained my pet to serve me without intending to. You can be sure from now on my training will be more deliberate. He recently learned how to prepare my tea (lightly brewed, with a bit of honey ;).