Anticipate if you can, but don't push it. If you don't know, ask. Default to asking. No assumptions!
That seems obvious enough, but every time we think we nailed communication, it comes apart again. We have IM, email, phones, bluetooths...and we still manage to miss each other's points a lot.
And because I'm the domme, it's his job to ask. My prerogative ;)
Incidentally--if you have a D/s blog and you would like to trade links, let me know. A lot of my links are long gone, and many more have popped up that I am unaware of.
I would love to be in your list of links! Would you please consider adding me?
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Thank you!
No problem luna!
ReplyDeleteI like your set up there, wordpress?
It is nice to see you both back, and with realistic rules. RL can very easily get in the way of WIITWD. i know that when my Master was alive, and i was stress out, He would back off, and i would become different, until He tightened things up again. There can be a balance, but it takes huge amounts of effort. The submissive needs to express they need the reigns tightened, and the dominant needs to be able to say, they don't think it is a good idea at the time.
ReplyDeletei just found your blog thru luna's bookmark! she has the best list in the blogosphere!
ReplyDeleteIsn't it interesting how so many of U/us let the "real world" crowd out what is truly "real" for U/us? W/we, too, have been formalizing O/our rules for the New Year and i am bookmarking Your site to share with Master. i am sure He will want to add you to His community list. W/we would love to be linked here.
Thank You for taking the time to share with those of us out here on the same journey. i particularly relate to your acknowledgment of how we submissives need MORE structure and control under stress . This has been key for O/our progress..and i now understand from your statements why it would seem counterintuitive to a Dom/Domme.
s/nik
I just found your blog today... I would love to share links, as I've just started blogging about my Wife and I in our new relationship... we have been married 6 years and just starting moving into a female-led relationship in the last two weeks. It has been a wonderful adventure thus far and I look forward to wherever she will take us in the future.
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