Thanks for everyone's support on the last, somewhat dramatic post.
Sometimes the old snakes get back on the plane, ya know? But I feel much better now thanks to some self reflection and a really nice service session from pet.
I was thinking today about how being a Domme, being free to do that at home, has really screwed me up in other areas.
I can NOT suffer patiently whilst others bicker about a decision. I can't really take charge in all situations, so I simply sit on my hands until it becomes clear that SOMEONE has to make a call. Then I do, as politely as possible, always acquiescing if someone disagrees. Then, naturally, the bickering and indecision go on. I think I've bitten my tongue bloody by now, lol! It is my nature to be polite and accommodating in a group where I'm not in charge, but sometimes I wish I could just whip out the crop and tell everyone "this is how it is going to be"! Wonder how that would go down at work...
That is a very interesting point. It does seem, on the face of it, that submissiveness is far more broadly relevant beyond a D/s relationship. In fact, I would go so far as to say that being submissive is very much in accord with being a well mannered gentleman.
ReplyDeleteI've sometimes wondered if it is particularly difficult for a Domme to contain herself when confronted with lumpy old fashioned males who are still under the impression that they are actually running something.
Why not become you own boss, and work as a professional Domme?
ReplyDeleteWow, you and my beloved must be related (grin). We've worked together often and sometimes in a poorly run meeting, I'd wait to see just how long she could stand it before she took over and ran the meeting - usually not long, but usually just as you describe, when SOMEONE has to make the call.
ReplyDeleteShe's far far from comfortable with the idea of whiping out the crop and taking charge, but I think that's on her growth agenda. Or maybe not - she's by nature a nurturer (bad pun intentional...)
Would it be totally out of character (and quite shocking) to your colleagues, if you did take charge... without the crop?? Maybe you'll feel better, just taking a stand/voicing your opinion? What lady doesn't need a release now & then?
ReplyDeleteIt is possible to behave as if you are in charge, and have others follow you, without the props and implements.
ReplyDeleteIf you do it tactfully and with confidence, always wanting to hear others' points of view and really making sure they feel heard, people will really appreciate your leadership especially when there is a lot of bickering and indecision going on.
Sadly, I can't take charge in all situations (anon--okay maybe that one, but I'm fairly sure pet would explode if I was Domme to another).
ReplyDeleteSometimes, I'm just not in charge.
I hate that! :)