I heard someone talking about submission to an owner past the dominant's death, and I like that idea. To serve someone past death is not altogether unlike serving them in life. (I should point out that my mistress is not dead, we were just exploring the concept.) I serve my mistress by being a good person in the world, by taking care of myself, by being mindful of my thoughts and actions, and by making sure the things that are important to her are attended to. As I said, not altogether unlike serving her while she is alive.
There are some things that are chores, and some things that are purely "acts of submission," but I do think that everything I do serves my mistress. For clarity - when I paint my Lady's toenails, that is more an "act of submission" and when I do the dishes, that is more of a "chore." What I mean by "everything" is that I make a conscious decision to serve my mistress every moment. At any time I can simply choose to not serve her, "turning off submission" so to say, but that is not how I choose to live my life. I mean that at any time, I can choose to eat a bunch of junk food, which is probably bad for my body and might make me ill, and then I am not available to do chores or paint toenails or make coffee or whatnot. So, making the choice every moment to serve is very important to me. It is also very obvious to her at any point when I choose not to serve for whatever reason at the time.
This is truly an individual decision. We have seen some fictional movies in which a slave sacrifices himself after the death of the Master. Nobody can write a rule for others to follow.
ReplyDeleteI am in a life-time committed relationship. Whether my mistress or I go first is not known. I have thought of her going first, and it is too devastating for me to contemplate. I would remain like a ship without a rudder. Yet I know that if she were to go first, she would want me to carry on not as her former slave, but as a complete human being with some chance of happiness with someone.
@Susan's Pet--of course you are correct it is an individual choice. I think also what pet failed to make totally clear is that if I died I would absolutely expect him to seek happiness in whatever way he could--if that meant being with another, then I'm all for it. Shit I'm all for that now, we're only monogamous in that we haven't met another we are truly interested in.
ReplyDeleteI think what he was trying to articulate is that serving me means caring for himself, living in a way that is kind and loving both to himself and the world. He knows I expect him to be good to himself, and that would go on if I ever were to die. His submission to me is total, but not limiting. I do expect him to go on as my slave, and that means first that he is a lovely, wonderful man with gifts to give another mistress if he chose. I would expect him to make me proud, as he does now every day.
And if he tried to "follow me" as such, I'd kill him again. Suicide is a selfish act, not a submissive one. I expect him to live a good, long, happy life.
Lady Janon,
ReplyDeleteI did not expect such an eloquent response to my comment. Thank you. You have expressed yourself clearly in the post and in your response.
I totally agree with you and your slave's view of taking care of himself in order to serve you better. I think that love and care are very much part of that.
I try, but I fail at some aspects of taking care of myself, yet I know that I am obligated to do so for my wife's sake. Her welfare is my most important directive.